Tag: Growth

#SessionConfessions: You Need To Think About What Is Holding You Back From What You Need?

Leadership Lesson: You can’t be the best version of yourself while doing the same things you’ve always done and expecting a different result. Don’t be insane.

In talking to clients in coaching sessions, when it comes to development and improvement of any kind, there are so many reasons we (yes, “we”) don’t do what we should do — even more, why we don’t stop doing what we shouldn’t.

Whether by conscious or subconscious choice, we tend to err on the side of caution, not going beyond the bounds of what we know and where we exist, playing things relatively safe in our lives and work.

And regardless of the environment in which each of us finds ourselves — no matter the organization, group,…


A Rebuttal: Someone’s Missing The Mark On Understanding The Growth Mindset

Leadership Lesson: The growth mindset is not merely about a foundation of continual learning lacking experimentation or risk-taking. Understand that, and you’ll realize the value of constant development, evolution, and risk-taking.

When it comes to how we learn, develop, and push forward toward accomplishment, Dr. Carol Dweck’s seminal book mindset: The New Psychology of Success – How We Can Learn To Fulfill Our Potential laid the groundwork for understanding the difference between the fixed mindset and the growth mindset.

The gist of the difference lies in what someone believes and does to achieve what they can.

The fixed mindset keeps itself locked…


Learn From Your Own Past: Raising Your Passion Without Raising Your Voice

Leadership Lesson: Don’t dismiss the entire set of takeaways from a past experience because you regret any portion of it which may make you uncomfortable or feel ashamed.

Looking to the past is both important and a constant source for realization and improvement.

In addition to that realization of what we’re all about and the improvement allowing us to continue building forward, the past also helps us figure out what to avoid doing…again.

Recently, I was talking with someone who was going to be presenting to colleagues in their industry as part of a panel. They were nervous because (a) they didn’t feel confident enough at public speaking to be…


To The Future Leaders: It’s Your Move To Position Yourself For Success

Leadership Lesson: Your definition of success should begin by determining where you need to position yourself in your various environments to have your value realized and tapped into.

In this previous post, I introduced this current series which covers a top-ten list of ideas I had provided to students at Quest 2017, a one-day summit hosted at Southern Connecticut State University by Connecticut’s Chapter of Prospanica, in partnership with its community and corporate partners. The annual event is filled with motivational presentations, speakers, and workshops providing students with tools for the next chapter in their lives.

The list is made up of tips students should consider as they continue on in their life, work, and careers…


Our Leaders’ Lessons: Dan Starbuck Pelletier and Leadership – You Need To Live It

Dan Starbuck Pelletier, Founder & President – DIG USA

In this “Our Leaders’ Lessons” series of posts, I recap what I’ve learned, and what we can all draw, from the leaders I’ve interviewed for the Coach It Out with Everyday Leaders podcast series.

I’ve been lucky enough to be able to interview people from numerous fields, who serve different communities, come from varied backgrounds, but who essentially are all driven by a very similar purpose: wanting to make the world around them better.

These leaders, who are all around us, are role models within their communities and organizations, always demonstrating the importance of serving others.

This is Dan Starbuck Pelletier

Your leadership, which encompasses your dreams, goals, and aspirations — how do you live it?

I sat down with Dan Starbuck…


To The Future Leaders: All Your Experiences Structure Your Path Forward

Leadership Lesson: You can’t build up into the future without looking back at the foundation of knowledge, skill, and experience you’ve built to date.

In this previous post, I introduced this current series which covers a top-ten list of ideas I had provided to students at Quest 2017, a one-day summit hosted at Southern Connecticut State University by Connecticut’s Chapter of Prospanica, in partnership with its community and corporate partners. The annual event is filled with motivational presentations, speakers, and workshops providing students with tools for the next chapter in their lives.

The list is made up of tips students should consider as they continue on in their life, work, and careers and is made up of…


To The Future Leaders: Make Sure You Recognize Your Drivers and Motivators

Leadership Lesson: Recognizing, knowing, and keeping in mind why you’re doing something keeps you fueled and fired up in the fight and work for it.

In this previous post, I introduced this current series which covers a top-ten list of ideas I had provided to students at Quest 2017, a one-day summit hosted at Southern Connecticut State University by Connecticut’s Chapter of Prospanica, in partnership with its community and corporate partners. The annual event is filled with motivational presentations, speakers, and workshops providing students with tools for the next chapter in their lives.

The list is made up of tips students should consider as they continue on in their life, work, and careers and is made up…


Through Your Leadership, Overall, How Do You Pass Leadership Lessons On To Your Kids?

Leadership Lesson: Sharing lessons ensures the continuity of the lessons, sharpens our own understanding, and allows us to improve the lessons through our own experiences.

Among all the other lessons we try to pass on to our kids, what are the leadership lessons we can pass on to our children to put them on the right path to their own success and greatness?

Leadership is not only limited to the workplace. Your ability and aptitude for leadership – to make an impact on and influence your environment, for better or worse, whether in an official position or not – follows you wherever you go.

It exists not only in formal policy and directives, but informal and passive actions and steps.

Leadership is not only about considering…


How Strong is Your Voice for Your Value? What Will You Show Others?

Leadership Lesson: Rather than assume others will see your value, no matter how good you think you’re doing, make sure you’re demonstrating it to others and that it’s something you always seek to constantly assess and improve.

How often do you get opportunities to demonstrate who you are and what you’re capable of?

Opportunities, in and of themselves, can be tricky as life is about taking the opportunities which you’re given at some points in time while making opportunities for yourself at others.

Too many people wait for opportunities to be presented instead of working around life and trying to lay down the tracks for creating their own.

So, in your personal, work, and professional life, how do you create opportunities…


In Your Life And Work, What Do You Allow People To Take From You?

Leadership Lesson: Make sure you don’t allow others to take anything away from you. Period.

Are you allowing others to dictate the course of your leadership and professional development? The development of those abilities and skills may be more out of your control than you know or would prefer.

But that’s only if you let it be that way.

These types of developments are not limited to the proactive steps you’re taking to gain from and influence your immediate environment. Nor are they confined to how you react to factors in your environment.

Beyond what you are proactive and reactive about, they are as much about what you allow to happen, and that can dictate the direction in which your development and growth are heading.

Proacting,…


Developing Your Leadership Is About Speculation, Not Emulation

Leadership Lesson: Learning leadership is not about copying behaviors, attributes, and approaches but instead about understanding the experiences we share with our leaders that can drive the same approach.

Leadership is a learning process. There’s no one magic bullet that is going to instill anyone with all the attributes, behaviors, and attitudes that are the right balance to shape the perfect leader.

The learning process can begin with books and theories but it carries over to, and is more refined by, what we see and seek out in our own environments. There are admirable leaders all around us from which we can learn.

This leadership learning process can take place within the workplace while we work through the technical skill which makes up our field…


Success Can Be Everywhere, Every Day, If You’re Ready To Realize It

Leadership Lesson: Take stock of all the positive things you do, both big and small. Don’t wait for something monumental to happen to celebrate your abilities.

Much in the same way society needs to rethink “failure,” it also needs to redefine success.

This great blog post on the Huffington Post is a rare gem that doesn’t just tell us how we should reach some grand idea or goal of success but instead has us look at our everyday valuable and contributing actions that might fly under the radar. Hopefully, through pieces such as this, we can realize that our everyday smaller actions can make an impact that are just as rewarding—albeit it, possibly in a different form–as “traditional”…


For A Well-Rounded Approach To Your Development, Be Sure To Take Advantage Of Your Friends

You should not take your friends for granted, but you should definitely take advantage of them.

This does not mean taking advantage of them in the traditional sense, where they are used to their detriment for your gain, but instead to take advantage of the value that they provide.

It means looking to your friends and the example that they set.  Much in the way it is important to analyze one’s surroundings and react accordingly, one should make sure that they are regularly learning from all facets and surroundings, including friends.

“…one has to debrief and self-reflect on his or her own strengths and weaknesses…”

The same way someone has to debrief and self-reflect on his or her own strengths and weaknesses to determine what…


Do You Understand The True Value You Provide To Others?

Your value, in large part, is made up of your skill, experience, time, work ethic, and quality, among other things. It is what you can deliver, what you can be, and what you can provide to make any situation, person, or experience better, whether inside or outside of the workplace.

Value is also the measure by which we might be perceived.  It provides the answer to the question What is it a person can provide to make something better?  It is what we provide to others, and vice versa.  In those exchanges value can be provided through guidance, help, and support as well as enhancement, betterment, and success.

It can serve as a currency, demonstrating worth or reputation, and some people have or provide more value than others.


Do You Feel “Worthy Enough” To Accept The Help Of Others?

Leadership Lesson: True self-improvement can’t take place without the honest vulnerability to reach out to others for help when necessary.

Why is it we don’t like looking like losers?

Sometimes that’s how we feel, how we’ve labeled or perceived ourselves–as if we are weak, pitiful, and vulnerable losers–because we feel like we need help with something. We feel that if we show that vulnerability, we’ll be judged, criticized, or, even worse, ostracized.  Some might avoid the conversations as they might see the state of needing help as one that is stigmatized as that of being a “downer” or just plain incapable.

Any hint of lack of control and we feel as if we’re undeserving of <<You Name It>>.

It’s astounding how many times people have shunned help…


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