Tag: Goals

When It Comes To What You Want, What Does It Cost To Be Who You Really Are?

Leadership Lesson: On the path of development, goals, and hopes, there may be moments when we’ll have to travel alone to achieve what it is we want and decide how much we can pursue alone.

Recently, in a networking group, I was talking to an entrepreneur, exchanging stories and experiences about our paths building our businesses. In sharing the up’s and down’s of the typical entrepreneurial journey, they mentioned the loneliness they sometimes felt because of the disconnection from their friendship circles that resulted from their need to concentrate and focus on their business.

That’s an understandable dilemma — seeking to build something for yourself at the risk of losing those everyday social moments, experiences, or, in the case of some,…


Leave Your Insanity In 2019 And Get Your Plan Right To Have A Happy New Year!

Leadership Lesson: Instead of hard-charging at their goal(s), anyone who is working on getting better and improving themselves should tackle them tactically in a focused manner by considering all their resources.

Here we are in a new year — again!

Is it my advanced age, or do the years just seem to pass us by faster? It feels like it was just a few weeks ago — and not a full year — since our last new year routine, where we left 2018 in the rear view mirror and began working on our new year’s resolutions for 2019.

Speaking of…New Year’s Resolutions. Remember those? Where did yours stand at the end of 2019? How did you do? Oh, you don’t want to…


What People Teach Us: Lady Gaga And The Discipline For Passion

Leadership Lesson: Make sure you truly understand what goes into making your passion work for you, taking into consideration your circumstances and resources alongside your desires, before either pursuing it fully or walking away.

What does passion mean to you? How does your passion manifest itself? Is your passion guiding you to step out of your comfort zone and take something new and bigger on?

How is that working out?

Let me tell you why I ask.

A few years ago I read a book that I guess could fall under the self-development genre and which walked the reader though how to be so memorable that everyone would have to remember who they are.

In the course of making its case for how to…


In Your Leadership: How Do You Develop The Short-Term While Satisfying The Long-Term?

Leadership Lesson: It’s important to constantly assess and consider both what you take in in the short-term and how it contributes to your long-term plans and satisfaction, ensuring you’re not giving away too much, or gaining little or nothing in return. 

Do you want to be happy? Or do you want to be satisfied? Is there a difference? 

According to the article A Nobel-Prize-winning psychologist says most people don’t really want to be happy, there is.

Following its title’s lead, the article covers people’s attitude about and work toward happiness — or, actually, how we don’t ascribe it correctly.  


To The Future Leaders: Do Not Wait For Life To Come To You

Leadership Lesson: Most of what we are capable of in this world, whether in our lives or careers, can only take place if we are proactive in pursuing it, refusing to wait for the right circumstances and luck to present themselves.

In this previous post, I introduced this current series which covers a top-ten list of ideas I had provided to students at Quest 2017, a one-day summit hosted at Southern Connecticut State University by Connecticut’s Chapter of Prospanica, in partnership with its community and corporate partners. The annual event is filled with motivational presentations, speakers, and workshops providing students with tools for the next chapter in their lives.

The list is made up of tips students…


To 2019! Coach It Out’s Year-End Message: Keep Getting Better!

Leadership Lesson: Here are some considerations to keep in mind as we move forward into the new year, so we can each keep assessing — and evolving along — our own path of leadership and development.

Another year comes to an end. Another year of accomplishments, maybe some so-so’s, and probably some disappointments and letdowns. What we did in the year likely ran the gamut from happiness-inducing achievements to discouraging misfires. 

And here we are — New Year’s Day, closing in on the finish line of 2018 and the starting line of 2019. Even though New Year’s Day isn’t tangible and visible, and is merely a demarcation set on paper, we typically see it as a new beginning to set resolutions.

New goals. New commitments….


In Working With Others, How Do You Challenge Them To Make Them Better?

Leadership Lesson: Although leadership is about working to eliminate and minimize environmental, developmental, and mission-related obstacles, making someone or something better in the course of that work, it can’t be fully effective without challenging those who are led.

The leadership of yesteryear – coordinating people to carry out cookie-cutter, repetitive tasks that benefit a mission or organization – is long gone.

Even though most workplaces have evolved past that type of work and mentality, as time goes on, there is even more to leadership than just getting the best results. It’s not only about the task at hand but also about what is built for the future, in both the organization or group or the people carrying out the work.

Leadership is about getting the…


Not Being Where You Think You Should Be In Your Career Can Be A Learning Experience

Leadership Lesson: When feeling as if you’ve wasted too much time before finally landing your desired job, there’s power in reassessment — looking back at all your experiences and realizing they’ve all served a purpose.

I was speaking to someone recently who had finally landed the job they wanted. After years of working other less-satisfying jobs here and there, while applying and interviewing for other, more-desired jobs, they were able to finally get a job they felt would provide them true satisfaction.

They finally felt as if they’d reached the first steps of their own personal success.

They felt like their true career could finally begin.

During that conversation, though, they lamented that they felt they had wasted so much time in their journey. That, unfortunately, it…


To The Future Leaders: Tap Into The Value Of An Accountability Partner

Leadership Lesson: Accountability partners keep us on task and responsible for what it is we want — and need — to achieve, further developing and sharpening our skill set.

In this previous post, I introduced this current series which covers a top-ten list of ideas I had provided to students at Quest 2017, a one-day summit hosted at Southern Connecticut State University by Connecticut’s Chapter of Prospanica, in partnership with its community and corporate partners. The annual event is filled with motivational presentations, speakers, and workshops providing students with tools for the next chapter in their lives.

The list is made up of tips students should consider as they continue on in their life,…


In Your Development And Journey, Have You Ever Thought About Why You Haven’t Quit?

Leadership Lesson: It’s important to think about, keep in mind, and give yourself credit for what has kept you in the game and focused to date.

“Have you ever thought about quitting?

That’s a question I got during the Q&A portion of a presentation I gave at Quest 2017, an education summit organized by the Connecticut Chapter of Prospanica and its corporate and community partners.

My presentation — Build Your Best Self To Tackle Your Goals — was built on the strategy of positioning oneself on the best path possible to reach his or her goals and was presented to minority students from high schools across Connecticut – the target audience of the summit itself.

The group was made up mostly of seniors…


What Do You Mean When You Say “It’s Too Much Work” To Reach What You Want?

Leadership Lesson: We need to be honest with ourselves when it comes to truly understanding what goes into achieving the things we desire.

We’re each a work-in-progress. That’s been mentioned here before, and it’s an honest assessment we should begin with as we develop ourselves forward. All of us are evolving toward our own goals and definitions of success.

Only some of us will work toward or achieve those goals and successes, while others watch from the sidelines, not knowing they can get into the game whenever they choose to.

Those who do go on to achieve their goals and successes have a mix of great support, perfect timing, and maybe even a little bit of luck. But much of the time, those who achieve…


Have You Learned From The Marks Adversity Has Left On Your Journey?

Coaching is an interesting field because it demonstrates how much people don’t know about themselves. Many times, the solutions clients seek are within their reach in their environment, and it is during the coaching process that the client becomes aware of those very tools and how to refine them to serve themselves best.

There are countless times where the client doesn’t know where to look or what to consider. They may doubt themselves or become unsure of their abilities because they compare themselves to other people. One can’t help but look for what is going on in the lives of others, but the thing is that they compare themselves to the apparent and obvious achievements of others.

Most of us don’t take into…


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