Tag: Development

Professionalism: How Do You Demonstrate It In Your Own Personal Way?

Leadership Lesson: When working toward something, it’s key to balance what we perceive as important in what we want to learn with the value that we already have, making sure not to let go of what is so special about ourselves.

What does it mean to “be professional?”

Last week, I was approached by a recent graduate who had reached out for some advice on how they could build up their professionalism. They had sent me a message based on a presentation I had given on emotional intelligence and leadership in the virtual world and my own coaching experience.

What ensued was a great conversation, with me asking them certain questions to get them thinking about enhancing (and not diminishing) their own value…


The Litmus Test Of Your Greatest Transformational Leaders: What Did You Take Forward?

Leadership Lesson: It’s important for each of us to keep in mind our greatest leaders – the standouts — in order to consider what it was that made them so and how they can inspire us to find, develop, and live our best form of leadership for those around us.

This past week, on LinkedIn, I posted a few pictures of and commentary on the leadership book Lincoln on Leadership: Executive Strategies for Tough Times, which chronicles the best leadership examples and stories of Abraham Lincoln, the 16th president of the United States. Taking a lesson from…


Open Your Eyes To What’s Textbook Today, Or Get An Abrupt Wake-Up Call Tomorrow.

Leadership Lessons: Although leadership development, like personal development, can (and should) be a life-long, deep, rich process, there are basic, common sense lessons you should seek out for whatever you’re getting into.

It’s amazing how many times, when I hear about leaders lacking in how they influence their environment, or not demonstrating even the most basic leadership qualities in their leadership role at all, I think to myself But how? That’s so textbook!

Whether we’re an official leader or not, there are basic building blocks we need to understand for whatever we want to take on. But recognizing, understanding, and building off those blocks can’t begin if we don’t first patiently look at ourselves and seek out the basic tools around us…


Leave Your Insanity In 2019 And Get Your Plan Right To Have A Happy New Year!

Leadership Lesson: Instead of hard-charging at their goal(s), anyone who is working on getting better and improving themselves should tackle them tactically in a focused manner by considering all their resources.

Here we are in a new year — again!

Is it my advanced age, or do the years just seem to pass us by faster? It feels like it was just a few weeks ago — and not a full year — since our last new year routine, where we left 2018 in the rear view mirror and began working on our new year’s resolutions for 2019.

Speaking of…New Year’s Resolutions. Remember those? Where did yours stand at the end of 2019? How did you do? Oh, you don’t want to…


Track And Assess Your Developmental Stages, Or Lose Out On Who You Can Be


Leadership Lesson: Acknowledging the separation between who you’ve been and what you’ve done in the past, and how you plan to build upon that going forward, allows you to track, assess, and strengthen your development and growth.

The dog days of summer are a distant memory. The Halloween season is upon us, with the holiday season around the corner, and the new year not too far behind.

At this point, no matter their level of education and experience, students have settled into the routines and classes of the new school year. The novelty and anxiety of the early school year has (hopefully) worn off, coinciding with a ramp-up in the work, responsibility, and accountability of their curriculum. There’s no more talk of “back-to-school” anything –…


Leaders Protecting Followers: How Many Forms Do You Think That Takes?

Leadership Lesson: Aside from protecting followers from outside forces, intrusions, and obstacles, leaders should also protect followers from the many ways they may limit, do in, and derail themselves.

I recently came across a graphic on Instagram that simply stated Leadership = Protection. In the caption below the illustration, the account asked Are you protecting your followers? Are you protecting your leaders? and then subsequently concluded A true leader protects all people around them.

Generally speaking, this is true. But many people might see this graphic, read the brief commentary, and believe that the “protections” mentioned are those traditionally thought of as automatically provided by leaders against outside forces. They may think such protections are against other team members and workers, superiors up the chain…


#SessionConfessions: You Need To Think About What Is Holding You Back From What You Need?

Leadership Lesson: You can’t be the best version of yourself while doing the same things you’ve always done and expecting a different result. Don’t be insane.

In talking to clients in coaching sessions, when it comes to development and improvement of any kind, there are so many reasons we (yes, “we”) don’t do what we should do — even more, why we don’t stop doing what we shouldn’t.

Whether by conscious or subconscious choice, we tend to err on the side of caution, not going beyond the bounds of what we know and where we exist, playing things relatively safe in our lives and work.

And regardless of the environment in which each of us finds ourselves — no matter the organization, group,…


In Order To Get Better And Move Forward, We Should Eulogize More People

Leadership Lesson: Getting in the habit of telling others what you think about them (before it’s too late) can provide a sense of fulfillment in yourself, along with both confirmation and encouragement in them about the value of what they’re doing, who they are, and how they impact you.

No, this isn’t some veiled attempt at convincing you to take out the competition in order to get ahead.

And no, it’s not some kind of morbid wish for you and your friends, family, and colleagues.

If anything, it’s a request that you do more for each other and make each other stronger – by acknowledging each other.

Related: Your Leadership Wake: As A


When It Comes To Your Development & Growth, Who Do You Have To Brainstorm With?

Leadership Lesson: Everyone should have partners and colleagues with whom they can share ideas, in order to form a development ecosystem that allows them to harness, reshape, and finalize their steps forward.

What I always try to get people I coach – or anyone else for that matter who seeks to get better at what they do – to do is consider what resources they have around them. I want them to see – I want YOU to see – that one shouldn’t be limited only to what or who they have instant access to. That you have the right to seek out what’s best for you. And that you bare the responsibility to do that for yourself.

You owe it to yourself. Wait on no…


I Can Do That Too!: The Overlapping Attributes Between Follower And Leader

Leadership Lesson: Leaders and followers, through the behaviors and attributes they demonstrate to others, have more in common than one would believe at first glance.

Leaders and followers have so much more in common than we might think. Most of the time, the only difference between one and the other may be an official leadership name tag, plate, or title.

But regardless of whether or not that official designation has been achieved, if broken down, one can see how many qualities and traits leaders and followers both utilize in their work.

People need to think about channeling and refining their leadership skills as soon and as early as they can in their life and career. This should be the case for anyone, no matter where…


A Rebuttal: Someone’s Missing The Mark On Understanding The Growth Mindset

Leadership Lesson: The growth mindset is not merely about a foundation of continual learning lacking experimentation or risk-taking. Understand that, and you’ll realize the value of constant development, evolution, and risk-taking.

When it comes to how we learn, develop, and push forward toward accomplishment, Dr. Carol Dweck’s seminal book mindset: The New Psychology of Success – How We Can Learn To Fulfill Our Potential laid the groundwork for understanding the difference between the fixed mindset and the growth mindset.

The gist of the difference lies in what someone believes and does to achieve what they can.

The fixed mindset keeps itself locked…


An Interview About My Leadership Coaching: What The Hell Am I Doing On TV?

Leadership Lesson: It’s important to realize and understand your evolution to date, while at the same time sharing your growth, lessons, and message with others.

What the hell am I doing on TV? An introvert on camera, sharing what i apparently hadn’t shared with others in the past, and yet not being as a passionate as I should be.

Let me back up a step and provide some context.

Recently, I was lucky enough to sit down with Veronica Garcia, out of WGBY in Springfield, Massachusetts, for a segment of the show Connecting Point. In the segment, I covered how I got into leadership coaching,…


Learn From Your Own Past: Raising Your Passion Without Raising Your Voice

Leadership Lesson: Don’t dismiss the entire set of takeaways from a past experience because you regret any portion of it which may make you uncomfortable or feel ashamed.

Looking to the past is both important and a constant source for realization and improvement.

In addition to that realization of what we’re all about and the improvement allowing us to continue building forward, the past also helps us figure out what to avoid doing…again.

Recently, I was talking with someone who was going to be presenting to colleagues in their industry as part of a panel. They were nervous because (a) they didn’t feel confident enough at public speaking to be…


Remember! Don’t Wait For Your Next Audience To Package Your Experience For You

Leadership Lesson: Do not wait until your skills, attributes, and value are called upon, noticed, and appreciated by an audience, to continue building, demonstrating, and packaging what you’re all about.

We’re all performers.

No, we don’t all perform in the traditional sense of dancing, singing, or acting in front of others. But in the course of both life and careers, we are demonstrating who we are and what we’re capable of to others. Those others who see, love, appreciate, critique, deny, or pay us, among other things, are our “audience.”

Yes, this happens in relationships of love, friendship, community, and career. You want people to notice the best in you, so you can then go on in that relationship to feel your greatest satisfaction.

The toughest part…


Make Sure You Recognize How Your Hobbies Contribute To Who You Are

Leadership Lesson: Make sure you understand that the true value and benefit you gain from the hobbies you explore can cross from one area of your life into another, serving you on all fronts.

I recently came across this Harvard Business Review article which covered CEO’s and how much they devote to their hobbies, or what the article calls serious leisure. The article provides a few examples of CEO’s going off in their spare time, leaving their executive duties behind, and being full-fledged DJ’s, pilots, and marathon runners, among other hobbies.

Now, although the article is about CEO’s, and because leadership development doesn’t begin only when one attains a leadership title or rank,…


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