Tag: Confidence

#SessionConfessions: What Makes You Feel Different Keeps You Aware And Sets You Apart!

Leadership Lesson: Our differences – even the ones we believe set us apart in an adverse way – can be harnessed into great self-awareness about where we stand and how we can get better moving forward. 

We’re all so different. And most of us know it, feel it, and sense it. 

But do we appreciate it? Do we understand its value? Have we harnessed its uniqueness? Do we realize differences are pieces of us that set us apart – and that that can be the game-changer? 

This Inc. magazine article talks about those differences, how different we all are, and, most importantly, who (surprisingly) might feel that way – in the article it’s people we admire as those at the top of their game. Look at some…

Here Are 5 Books For Your Journey To Overcoming Fear Of Failure

Leadership Lesson: Don’t overlook the power of books to fill in the gaps in lessons you may not see or have access to in your work or personal life.

Last week, I presented a workshop for B.I.G. – Believe. Inspire. Growa women’s empowerment network providing women with the inspiration, community, and tools to help them become the best versions of themselves.  

I presented to the audience on how to begin overcoming their fear of failure.

This is such a relevant topic, because the more I work with individuals and groups, both through presentations and coaching, the more I realize how much each of us grapples with our own unique fear of failure.

Overall, it’s no secret that people in…

Students: In Interviews, These Four Areas Of Focus Beat “Perfection” Every Time – Part 2

Leadership Lesson: Great interviewing mirrors what we do everyday, when we demonstrate to others the quality of our work, skill, and character.

Continued from Part 1   

Keep this in mind: There is no such thing as perfection when it comes to making an impression of any kind, especially during an interview.

Much in the same way we might expend too much energy fighting off fear and insecurity, we can also expend too much energy fighting to perfect the impression we give others. The former is a draining defensive effort while the latter is a draining offensive tactic, and neither gets you anywhere.

The stress of those draining forces can be detected by others in how someone comes across, because it can hinder a person’s…

Leadership Hypocrisy: Do You Ask People To Do What You Won’t?

Are you a hypocrite?

Yes, that’s a real question that seeks an honest and self-reflective response. Whether it’s in your work or personal life, do you ask others to do things you won’t? Or, conversely, do ask others not to do something you do?

Oftentimes, we look at situations that we’re involved in, whether in life or at work, with the ultimate hope that they’ll benefit us — and rightly so. This isn’t to say it’s for selfish reasons but instead so that we are able to do our best in whatever environment we are working.

But, do we hold certain standards which yield better results for ourselves while undermining others by not holding the same standard for them – whether we are the ones impacting them or…

How Far Down Will You Go With The Ship If You Don’t Speak Truth To Power?

Leadership Lesson: Leadership at any level should include the integrity to stand up against something you don’t believe in, no matter how unpopular the insight might seem and who you might have to tell.

What does it take for you to stand up to a leader or a boss who keeps making missteps?

Let’s assume, for the sake of argument, that in this case, we know what we’re talking about with regard to our own experience and specialty in our field, and we see the boss keeps giving misinformation, getting emotional in their response, or contradicting the information we’re defending our mission with?

How and when do we step in? Do we step in? If not, why wouldn’t we?

Fear? Intimidation? Retribution?

If we go too…

There’s A Difference Between “Quitting” And Doing What’s Best For You

Leadership Lesson: You need to understand that there’s a difference between quitting and situations where you’re doing what’s right for you, learning from what you’ve experienced to move forward.

Be honest: Are you a quitter?

Do you give up on things? Do you walk away from things? Do you just say to yourself “This isn’t for me” or “I can’t do this”?

Some people would say that to separate yourself from an action, initiative or plan you had previously committed to would be quitting.  You wanted to do something and, at some point, you decided it wasn’t for you and so you just backed out.

You started and you changed your mind. So, again, according to some, you’ve quit.

But, much in the same way it’s time to…

What People Teach Us: Hillary Clinton And Repeating (Recent) History

Hillary Clinton is continuing to make more appearances since having lost the Presidential Election in November to Donald Trump.

Her supporters are happy to see her and get her take on the first 100 days of the new administration. And yet others are quick to point out that she and other older Democrats need to step out of the spotlight to make way for a younger, more connected Democratic contingent to take over.

Many political observers feel, in hindsight, that her and the Democratic Party’s disconnection and inability to relate to the masses is what lost the presidential election and relinquished more of their party’s seats in Congress to the Republicans.

“Are we willing to be negligent enough to affirm people’s poor perceptions of us?”

But back to…

How Strong is Your Voice for Your Value? What Will You Show Others?

Leadership Lesson: Rather than assume others will see your value, no matter how good you think you’re doing, make sure you’re demonstrating it to others and that it’s something you always seek to constantly assess and improve.

How often do you get opportunities to demonstrate who you are and what you’re capable of?

Opportunities, in and of themselves, can be tricky as life is about taking the opportunities which you’re given at some points in time while making opportunities for yourself at others.

Too many people wait for opportunities to be presented instead of working around life and trying to lay down the tracks for creating their own.

So, in your personal, work, and professional life, how do you create opportunities for yourself…

In Your Life And Work, What Do You Allow People To Take From You?

Leadership Lesson: Make sure you don’t allow others to take anything away from you. Period.

Are you allowing others to dictate the course of your leadership and professional development? The development of those abilities and skills may be more out of your control than you know or would prefer.

But that’s only if you let it be that way.

These types of developments are not limited to the proactive steps you’re taking to gain from and influence your immediate environment. Nor are they confined to how you react to factors in your environment.

Beyond what you are proactive and reactive about, they are as much about what you allow to happen, and that can dictate the direction in which your development and growth are heading.

Proacting, Reacting, and…

As a Leader, To Understand All Your Resources, First Seek to Acknowledge and Understand

So much can be accomplished by a leader. So much action can be taken, guidance provided, and so many goals achieved for their stakeholders.

But many leaders have different styles for reaching their accomplishments, utilizing available resources, and emboldening those in their environment.

Great leaders take in a global assessment of both the outside world and the internal dynamic of their workplace or environment but when it comes to the internal assessment, the best and most effective leaders take a much deeper accounting of the resources at their disposal in their environment.

It is no easy task to take all that on — the constant assessment and vigilance of one’s environment — but it is very important.

This awareness — this understanding — is key to performance.

To Move Forward, Answer This: Are You Taking The Proactive or Reactive Path In Life?

Leadership Lesson: It’s a mistake to only live and work in reactive mode to everything around us, when we should be working to prepare as best as possible to navigate our environments.

Leadership is about taking in and utilizing the resources around you, whether it is for a cause or mission greater than yourself, or for your own development.

The tools you need are there for the taking. It’s a matter of realizing it, identifying them, and reaching out to combine the internal knowledge you hold and carry with those external tools that are at your disposal.

No one can take that first step but you. No one can force you. Being forced into it in one way or another does not create value. True…

What People Teach Us: Muhammad Ali — Free To Be What I Want

Every so often society endures the passing of an icon–someone whose absence makes the world feel like it’s lost a bit of its luster and faded in energy.

These icons are people who seemed to not only stray from the script of what society expected of them, but took the script, incinerated it, and set out to lay out their own path for others to follow, should they choose, making all to feel welcome to do so. These icons, such as Mother Theresa, Gandhi, and Nelson Mandela, for example, called on all of us, through the generations, to come forward and make life better for ourselves by making life better for our fellow man and woman. They espoused the idea of service…

Is Your Definition Of Confidence Holding You Back Or Pushing You Forward?

Leadership Lesson: It’s important for us to all understand where it is that confidence comes from, so that we don’t put some undo pressure on ourselves to find something extraordinary outside of ourselves before pushing forward toward what we want.

There are many interpretations — and misconceptions — of what confidence might be. Each of us will have our own experiences in life and work which shape the way we move forward. We’re molded by our paths and what we see, live, and learn.

One of the greatest drawbacks in learning about confidence is the misconception that exists in the connection between confidence and insecurity:  Many believe that a confident person does not have insecurities, but the truth is this is false.


My One Message To The Graduates In Order To Help You: Challenge Me

To you, as a graduate, here is a tip of tremendous value I can provide to you: Challenge Me.

Before we get to why, let me offer you congratulations on your graduation! This is a tremendous achievement in and of itself, but even more tremendous if you do all that you can to build off of it.

Whether it’s a high school diploma, or an undergraduate, graduate, or doctorate degree, you’re further along your path of knowledge (and self-discovery) than when you first entered your most recent program or institution. And with that progression you advance into a new level of development and self-awareness.

Do you know how to approach it?

Do you know enough to stop and ask, or think about how you should approach it?

Everyone will…

Success Can Be Everywhere, Every Day, If You’re Ready To Realize It

Leadership Lesson: Take stock of all the positive things you do, both big and small. Don’t wait for something monumental to happen to celebrate your abilities.

Much in the same way society needs to rethink “failure,” it also needs to redefine success.

This great blog post on the Huffington Post is a rare gem that doesn’t just tell us how we should reach some grand idea or goal of success but instead has us look at our everyday valuable and contributing actions that might fly under the radar. Hopefully, through pieces such as this, we can realize that our everyday smaller actions can make an impact that are just as rewarding—albeit it, possibly in a different form–as “traditional” success.


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