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The Coach It Out Instagram account aims to empower its followers to design their leadership and get to where they belong.
You would be surprised what an image and a few words, questions, or challenges can do to get you to think about where you stand today and where — and who — you want to be tomorrow.
This page provides a little more insight into some of the account’s most impactful posts.
Below, I’ll share both the inspiration for why I wanted to share the image and how it applies to leadership development. Whichever ones you look at and learn about, consider the message, take into account the lessons, and take them up on the challenges.
Inspiration: More and more, I’m hearing stories about — and having my own experiences with — people ghosting. With regard to any kind of relationship, this means they just drop off and disappear, in essence ditching the partnership without any warning.. So, in building such a relationship, it’s hard to imagine someone who would do something so easily would then be a good, valuable, and dependable partner in the future. So, what they show you today should be your expectation of them tomorrow, especially when a relationship or connection is just getting started. When someone shows you who they a really are, believe them.
Application to Leadership Development: Obviously, those who ghost don’t keep customer service in mind when dealing with others. They don’t feel that their reputation with that person — or the circle of connections beyond that person — is of value. But reputation is everything, and that also goes for people who you may believe can’t do anything for you. Treat everyone with common courtesy, decency, and respect. Don’t let your reputation deteriorate through that kind of negligence.
Inspiration: People just really forget how to treat each other, don’t they? Too many people seem to naturally lean toward the belief that others are there to serve them. So, I’ve heard too many stories from clients about, and had too many experiences myself with, people who take, take, take — and that’s it. They get what they need and move on.
Application to Leadership Development: The most effective people you’ll meet, whether they are leaders or not, are those who will look you in the eye, treat you with respect and courtesy, and see their role through. They realize they’re not forfeiting anything in their own lives by making sure someone else is having a great experience. They deliver in the present as well as into the future. They make sure those around them have what they need for today, as well as what they need for tomorrow. Remember: Customer Service — the way you treat everyone around you, not just those who can do something for you — can be your greatest competitive advantage or your most vulnerable Achilles’ Heel.
Inspiration: Within my personal or professional life and in the stories of clients, there are too many instances and stories of working with other who make promises or commitments they can’t keep.
You know when you’re dealing with someone who is completely in the game and is aware of the ripple effect of how they interact with, and come through for, others. You also know — or should know — when you’re dealing with someone who takes your time, skill, and drive for granted.
Application to Leadership Development: When it comes to business, career, or life, your word is key. It can be what sets you apart, either in a good way or a bad way. It can draw people to you or push them away. It can build up your reputation, or detonate it. It can exist in outright or subtle actions. It can be your competitive advantage or your Achilles’ Heel. Remember: Everyone is your customer. Whether they pay you or not, your reputation lives through them. How good is your word? How good is your credibility?
Inspiration: The world’s issues stem so much from our inability to see someone else’s stance, position, or belief. We’re an all-or-nothing world. Either you accept what I’m selling, or you’re completely against me. But it shouldn’t be that way. It doesn’t make sense. Remaining at the extremes is unproductive and can be dangerous. There are too many people in the world to believe that our own opinions are what should be taking place. There should be balance, compromise, and moderation. None of those options is a zero-sum game.
Application to Leadership Development: We need to try to seek the value in the cases and beliefs of others. We need to open our minds to all kinds of opinions and positions. It doesn’t mean we have to accept them. But elevating a debate to a confrontation leaves its two parties even further apart. And this happens internally as well. You need to moderate between the two extremes of the items listed here. The more you can moderate internally, the more you can understand the need for moderation with others.
Inspiration: I read Mr. Prahalad’s words in a book on leadership, and they echoed loudly. We tend to think any part or area of our life is made up of what we bring to the table. In some situations, if we don’t bring anything to the table, we don’t feel it has value. But, that’s wrong. The greatest people, the greatest leaders, see the best in others, whether that’s in someone else’s talent or skill — or intellect in this case.
Application to Leadership Development: Our success is not only built on what we bring to the table — no one can make it alone — but also on how much we see in others. It’s about curiosity. We need to see what other people can provide that we may not. That’s where the truest power of leadership exists — seeing what others are willing to provide, or opening up that which they’re unsure of but in which we see tremendous value.
Inspiration: Fear is one of my favorite topics. No one loves being afraid, so it’s not that I love the feeling of fear. I just think fear is so empty — it’s a feeling that has no shape, a creature we create — and yet there’s so much beyond it. If we can get past our self-doubt, there are more people to meet, goals to attain, and legacy to leave.
Application to Leadership Development: Much of the work we have to do is within ourselves. We have to improve what we see in ourselves, and how much we believe in it. We are our biggest obstacles. Yes, people from our past may have contributed to building our fears and what we perceive, but it’s up to us as to how long we keep ourselves crippled and shackled, forfeiting the greatness we can achieve by, in essence, hiding.
Inspiration: I came across this picture, and it instantly reminded me of instances of people limiting their own beliefs and confidence because they didn’t fit someone else’s labels. Specifically, this ties in perfectly to those without any form of education. Some get discouraged by the judgments of not having that education. They’re being judged by someone who can offer nothing of REAL value in return. (If someone judges yet provides nothing of value, their words are worthless.)
Application to Leadership Development: We all need to fight through to have our value seen, regardless of what part of life or career we’re talking about. If you don’t fit into someone’s world, design your own. Don’t limit yourself to what’s around you; create what will satisfy you when possible.
Inspiration: How could I not go with this picture? I love the visualization of someone going into their fight in the ring and getting ready to do battle. Yeah, the mask makes him look a little crazy. So, upon seeing this picture, I wondered Who’s in this guy’s corner? Who’s supporting him in going out there and doing what he wants to do, yet keeping him in check? Hence, I added that caption.
Application to Leadership Development: So, for whomever might want — or need — to move forward, do they have not only someone in their circles who supports where they want to take their lives, but who also provides support and is honest, possibly coaching them? Who enables your crazy? Who supports you stepping out of the norm to do what you feel you need to do?
Inspiration: This is one of my favorite posts, because of its visualization and how it ties into the Aristotle quote. Dr. Banner gave into anger to become The Incredible Hulk. This is similar to what happens to those who get overtaken by something that is different than what they accept. Instead of calmly listening, they go the other way, are triggered and lose the ability to ration.
Application to Leadership Development: We can all learn through this visualization what it means to at least listen to what we don’t agree with. That we don’t have to turn ourselves over to it if we listen. It’s powerful to consider everything and not “turn” up the volume, or away. Hear things through and don’t limit or lose yourself.
Inspiration: It is tough to work with someone who doesn’t share your sense of urgency or understand the importance you assign to your time. Don’t limit yourself necessarily based on what others around you are doing — or not doing. It’s important to remember that not everyone will find the things you find important as important as you do. We all move at different speeds. The important thing is to gravitate toward people that share a similar sense of urgency.
Application to Leadership Development: There are moments when coaching clients lose steam for what they want to achieve because others don’t see the same vision. But, they need to keep pushing. One of the hardest parts of life, of career, and/or business is the need to get to where you belong and surround yourself with people with a similar desire for more. Make your way, and find them!
Inspiration: This was a tough week to pick just one to break down here, as there were so many great ones. But this one stood out because it’s important to keep in mind everything that didn’t work out, where you didn’t succeed, or where people doubted or dismissed you. Don’t forget those lessons. Show them who you are!
Application to Leadership Development: We are typically OK to move on after talking about our lack of successes, or obstacles, or slip-ups. The hardest part is getting it out of our system and talking about where we didn’t succeed. Once clients get it out of them — when they speak it out loud — they can then get going and build up from that point where they felt they were so low. Those obstacles can be motivators.
Inspiration: This one is obviously a favorite! It’s amazing, in listening to others, throughout life, career, and coaching, how much I’ve seen what people will put themselves through — or allow to have themselves to be put through. Too many people tolerate too much! People put up with so much bullshit!
Application to Leadership Development: Whether it’s because we may not believe we deserve more, or we do but just don’t know how to seek it out, it’s important to make the effort to limit and/or eliminate toxicity in our lives. Coaching clients are held back by so much in their lives that they eventually learn to get rid of. You cannot push forward if you’re being held back and down by the toxicity of others.
Inspiration: This one was inspired by a spirit of community — especially one’s own ability and desire to contribute to the society around them. People usually — and easily — seem to bitch about how things are subpar around them, whether it be their team, their company, their city or state, etc.
Application to Leadership Development: What are you doing to make things better? You make up the group you may be complaining about (if you are one of these people who complains). What can you bring to the table? People learn that their environment can only reach its true potential if they apply and contribute their own uniqueness to whatever community it may be. Make your environment as great as you can.
Inspiration: This one piggy-backed off of Week 2 below. It seemed to capture in one great quote what I was trying to deliver with that 2nd week post. It provides a different angle from which to look at your trials, obstacles, and challenges. It reminds us how much fight we need to have.
I personally don’t like the word failure because it has a negative connotation.
Application to Leadership Development: Not succeeding is not a bad thing. We need to reword what we call it when someone attempts something but is unsuccessful. “Failure” just sounds “less-than.” Those “unsuccesses” truly do sharpen you. They show you your low points, how to get beyond them, and, later, show you how far you’ve come. We all need to take away the lessons of our slip-up’s and learn where we need to improve to move forward.
Inspiration: The driver for this post was personal. It’s tough starting a business. You put yourself out there for the world to see, ready to deliver, but not everything goes your way. You get countless “no thanks,” or no responses at all. But all the while, after those forms of rejection, I found powerful partners I otherwise wouldn’t have found if I gave into those initial dismissals. The important thing is knowing what you’re worth and what you can deliver for others. Yes — show them what you’re made of.
Application to Leadership Development: Specifically, this post aimed to share a lesson I and other entrepreneur friends have learned: No matter who says no to you today, someone down the line will say “yes” and make all the pain, self-doubt, and frustration worth it. It really is a game of patience. Keep at it, whatever it is you’re doing.
Inspiration: I uploaded this image at a time where the B.S. in Washington D.C. was at an all-time high. The political parties were involved in bitter negotiations with a government shutdown being the ultimate result. The point of this post was to remind us all that no matter what happens in D.C. with our politicians, or in any other area of our life with any other party, person, or group in power, we need to do what we can and dictate our own results as best as possible.
Application to Leadership Development: In order to get better, never give up on controlling what you can. Don’t leave anything in anyone’s hands. Yes, those forces may end up controlling some aspect of our lives, but make sure to offset it, through some other action or commitment on your part, for the your own betterment, and that of others.
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This article is great especially because of how it addresses and covers fear, both what it is and how we can use it. My favorite line: It’s not about you, it’s about having a positive impact on someone else’s life. #coaching #publicspeaking #fear theladders.com/career-advice/…
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Grateful to have been able to speak with Veronica Garcia for the @wgby show Connecting Point to do a segment on #leadershipcoaching, what it means to me, and what it can do for people. #leadership #development #business connectingpoint.wgby.org/disc…
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Great breakdown in this paragraph. Not everyone in one category is the same. Learn to investigate and vet what you see in front of you, extracting value where possible, instead of generalizing. #millennials #workplace #leadership ow.ly/u0zd30o36hZ pic.twitter.com/3vbRhnN96B
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Review, cut, but learn from the toxic parts of your life. Whether it's people, co-workers, emotions, self-perception, social circles, social media, etc. There's too much greatness out there to limit yourself or settle. #self #development #leadership ow.ly/3CCt30mD7uu
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Great article. My favorite question on the list: DO I OPERATE FROM THE INSIDE OUT? In short, how much of what you want truly comes from inside -- for yourself & not anyone else? #Beselfish 😉 #personal #leadership #life #goals #development #coaching ow.ly/pSix30obwjF
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