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What Do You Expect For Yourself That You Don’t Provide To Others?

Leadership Lesson: Too often, we seek out what we need from others — the best conditions and treatment — without thinking about whether or not we’re providing it to others ourselves, whether in advance or in return.

One of the strongest predictors of great development is what someone takes in from the environment around them. Positive experiences and results can build someone up, pushing them further into their own success and achievements. Negative…


I Can Do That Too!: The Overlapping Attributes Between Follower And Leader

Leadership Lesson: Leaders and followers, through the behaviors and attributes they demonstrate to others, have more in common than one would believe at first glance.

Leaders and followers have so much more in common than we might think. Most of the time, the only difference between one and the other may be an official leadership name tag, plate, or title.

But regardless of whether or not that official designation has…


A Rebuttal: Someone’s Missing The Mark On Understanding The Growth Mindset

Leadership Lesson: The growth mindset is not merely about a foundation of continual learning lacking experimentation or risk-taking. Understand that, and you’ll realize the value of constant development, evolution, and risk-taking.

When it comes to how we learn, develop, and push forward toward accomplishment, Dr. Carol Dweck’s seminal book mindset: The New Psychology of Success –…


An Interview About My Leadership Coaching: What The Hell Am I Doing On TV?

Leadership Lesson: It’s important to realize and understand your evolution to date, while at the same time sharing your growth, lessons, and message with others.

What the hell am I doing on TV? An introvert on camera, sharing what i apparently hadn’t shared with others in the past, and yet not being as a passionate as I should be.

Let me back up a step and provide some context.

Recently, I was…


Learn From Your Own Past: Raising Your Passion Without Raising Your Voice

Leadership Lesson: Don’t dismiss the entire set of takeaways from a past experience because you regret any portion of it which may make you uncomfortable or feel ashamed.

Looking to the past is both important and a constant source for realization and improvement.

In addition to that realization of what we’re all about and…


Remember! Don’t Wait For Your Next Audience To Package Your Experience For You

Leadership Lesson: Do not wait until your skills, attributes, and value are called upon, noticed, and appreciated by an audience, to continue building, demonstrating, and packaging what you’re all about.

We’re all performers.

No, we don’t all perform in the traditional sense of dancing, singing, or acting in front of others. But in the course of both life and careers, we are demonstrating who we are and what we’re capable of to others. Those others who…


Make Sure You Recognize How Your Hobbies Contribute To Who You Are

Leadership Lesson: Make sure you understand that the true value and benefit you gain from the hobbies you explore can cross from one area of your life into another, serving you on all fronts.

I recently came across this Harvard Business Review article which covered CEO’s and how much they devote to their hobbies, or what the article calls serious…


Before We Can Find Balance With Others, We Need To Keep Ourselves In Check – Part 2

Leadership Lesson: With others and within ourselves, enhancing our awareness of and openness to a deeper understanding of extreme positions advances progress, so we’re using our time effectively and avoiding outright dismissal of one side or the other.

Continued from Part I

Tolerating Negativity vs. Eliminating It

Negativity should never be tolerated at all, but it’s included in this list of items to balance because…


Before We Can Find Balance With Others, We Need To Keep Ourselves In Check – Part 1

Leadership Lesson: With others and within ourselves, enhancing our awareness of and openness to a deeper understanding of extreme positions advances progress, so we’re using our time effectively and avoiding outright dismissal of one side or the other.

Things are getting out of control nowadays. Everyone is freaking out. Tensions seem to be running higher and higher.

We all seem to be divided, standing on one side of a issue or the other.

And it’s like this across…


What People Teach Us: Lady Gaga And The Discipline For Passion

Leadership Lesson: Make sure you truly understand what goes into making your passion work for you, taking into consideration your circumstances and resources alongside your desires, before either pursuing it fully or walking away.

What does passion mean to you? How does your passion manifest itself? Is your passion guiding you to step out of your comfort zone and take something new and bigger on?

How is that working out?

Let me tell you why I ask.

A…


What People Teach Us: Jocko Willink, Arguing For Your Point Yet Asking For Balance

Leadership Lesson: To be effective and credible, we should seek to balance what it is we support with conveying both that we understand its limitations, and that there are other considerations to be taken into account.

This piece by retired Navy Seal, management consulting firm founder, bestselling author, and burgeoning podcaster Jocko Willink is an article of defense. In what he writes,…


Loneliness Can Be Everywhere: Disconnection, Frustration, And The Need To Move Forward

Leadership Lesson: Realize the disconnection and frustration loneliness might truly present and that you need to make sure you’re searching for ways to express yourself and your needs, in your personal life as well as your professional endeavors.

“Loneliness does not come from
having no people about one,
but from being unable to communicate
the things that seem important to oneself,
or from holding certain views
which others find inadmissible.”
― Carl Gustav Jung

I came across…


In Your Leadership: How Do You Develop The Short-Term While Satisfying The Long-Term?

Leadership Lesson: It’s important to constantly assess and consider both what you take in in the short-term and how it contributes to your long-term plans and satisfaction, ensuring you’re not giving away too much, or gaining little or nothing in return. 

Do you want to be happy? Or do you want to be satisfied? Is there a difference? 

According to the article


“Ugly” Attributes To Take Away From The Entrepreneurial Mindset

Leadership Lessons:  There is so much we can learn from entrepreneurs and their perception of the world around them, the dreams they hold and share, and the attributes they use to carve out a path for themselves and others, from today into tomorrow. 

Entrepreneurs are the proudest and most insatiable, stubborn, impatient, and delusional people, who view life and work through their own form of tunnel vision.

And I mean that in the…


If We Need To Evolve Beyond Today, Don’t “Teach A Man To Fish.”

Leadership Lesson: In order to set someone up for their best habits in development, growth, and their own definition of success, it’s important to consider the true adaptability skills we provide alongside the traditional tools we impart on those we lead, teach, or influence. 

“Give a man a fish
and you feed him for a day.
Teach a man to fish
and you feed him for a life time.”  

Yeah, I don’t think so. 

Unfortunately, this…


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