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Before We Can Find Balance With Others, We Need To Keep Ourselves In Check – Part 2

Leadership Lesson: With others and within ourselves, enhancing our awareness of and openness to a deeper understanding of extreme positions advances progress, so we’re using our time effectively and avoiding outright dismissal of one side or the other.

Continued from Part I

Tolerating Negativity vs. Eliminating It

Negativity should never be tolerated at all, but it’s included in this list of items to balance because…


Before We Can Find Balance With Others, We Need To Keep Ourselves In Check – Part 1

Leadership Lesson: With others and within ourselves, enhancing our awareness of and openness to a deeper understanding of extreme positions advances progress, so we’re using our time effectively and avoiding outright dismissal of one side or the other.

Things are getting out of control nowadays. Everyone is freaking out. Tensions seem to be running higher and higher.

We all seem to be divided, standing on one side of a issue or the other.

And it’s like this across…


What People Teach Us: Lady Gaga And The Discipline For Passion

Leadership Lesson: Make sure you truly understand what goes into making your passion work for you, taking into consideration your circumstances and resources alongside your desires, before either pursuing it fully or walking away.

What does passion mean to you? How does your passion manifest itself? Is your passion guiding you to step out of your comfort zone and take something new and bigger on?

How is that working out?

Let me tell you why I ask.

A…


What People Teach Us: Jocko Willink, Arguing For Your Point Yet Asking For Balance

Leadership Lesson: To be effective and credible, we should seek to balance what it is we support with conveying both that we understand its limitations, and that there are other considerations to be taken into account.

This piece by retired Navy Seal, management consulting firm founder, bestselling author, and burgeoning podcaster Jocko Willink is an article of defense. In what he writes,…


Loneliness Can Be Everywhere: Disconnection, Frustration, And The Need To Move Forward

Leadership Lesson: Realize the disconnection and frustration loneliness might truly present and that you need to make sure you’re searching for ways to express yourself and your needs, in your personal life as well as your professional endeavors.

“Loneliness does not come from
having no people about one,
but from being unable to communicate
the things that seem important to oneself,
or from holding certain views
which others find inadmissible.”
― Carl Gustav Jung

I came across…


In Your Leadership: How Do You Develop The Short-Term While Satisfying The Long-Term?

Leadership Lesson: It’s important to constantly assess and consider both what you take in in the short-term and how it contributes to your long-term plans and satisfaction, ensuring you’re not giving away too much, or gaining little or nothing in return. 

Do you want to be happy? Or do you want to be satisfied? Is there a difference? 

According to the article


“Ugly” Attributes To Take Away From The Entrepreneurial Mindset

Leadership Lessons:  There is so much we can learn from entrepreneurs and their perception of the world around them, the dreams they hold and share, and the attributes they use to carve out a path for themselves and others, from today into tomorrow. 

Entrepreneurs are the proudest and most insatiable, stubborn, impatient, and delusional people, who view life and work through their own form of tunnel vision.

And I mean that in the…


If We Need To Evolve Beyond Today, Don’t “Teach A Man To Fish.”

Leadership Lesson: In order to set someone up for their best habits in development, growth, and their own definition of success, it’s important to consider the true adaptability skills we provide alongside the traditional tools we impart on those we lead, teach, or influence. 

“Give a man a fish
and you feed him for a day.
Teach a man to fish
and you feed him for a life time.”  

Yeah, I don’t think so. 

Unfortunately, this…


To The Future Leaders: Do Not Wait For Life To Come To You

Leadership Lesson: Most of what we are capable of in this world, whether in our lives or careers, can only take place if we are proactive in pursuing it, refusing to wait for the right circumstances and luck to present themselves.

In this previous post, I introduced this current series which covers a top-ten list of ideas I had provided to students at Quest 2017, a one-day summit hosted at…


The Leadership Lesson In A Song: You Can Be Your Own Worst Enemy

Leadership Lesson: Whether from a song or not, in order to learn from others’ experiences, make sure to listen to both the subtle and overt messages and understand what you hear and see in the words of others. 

You know how when someone points something out to you you hadn’t previously recognized or noticed, you tend to see it again? You tend to see it in places you wouldn’t have…


What Do You Do When Your Heroes And Leaders Aren’t What They Seem?

Leadership Lesson: It’s important to learn from the situations in which a “hero,” or someone you considered a true leader, turns out to not be at all what was perceived or expected. 

Recently, I was catching up with a friend I hadn’t spoken to in some time. What led them to reach out was an article they had found online and texted to me which covered a leadership issue…


To 2019! Coach It Out’s Year-End Message: Keep Getting Better!

Leadership Lesson: Here are some considerations to keep in mind as we move forward into the new year, so we can each keep assessing — and evolving along — our own path of leadership and development.

Another year comes to an end. Another year of accomplishments, maybe some so-so’s, and probably some disappointments and letdowns. What we did in the year likely ran the gamut from happiness-inducing achievements to…


What People Teach Us: James Mattis – Considering Everything Our Leaders Are, Not Just What Impacts Us

Leadership Lesson: We should consider everything that makes up our leaders — and which will probably contribute to our own legacy — so we’re not just loyal to our leaders’ loyalty to our own priorities.

So General James Mattis, our country’s latest Secretary of Defense, has had enough.

He has tendered his letter of resignation, effective a few months from now,…


What People Teach Us: Michael Jordan – Never Judge Leadership By Its Cover

Leadership Lesson: Much like the message in the adage Don’t judge a book by its cover, it’s important to never take a scene – or relationship – at face value when it comes to leadership presence and effectiveness, because everyone has their own ideas of what a relationship is supposed to look like.

Recently, during an NBA game between the Charlotte Hornets and the Detroit Pistons, Charlotte’s shooting guard, Malik Monk, was hit with a technical foul…


To The Future Leaders: Be Part Of & Contribute To Your Community

Leadership Lesson: One of the great responsibilities at any level of leadership or leadership development is ensuring that our communities are enriched through the skills and value we ourselves can share with and provide to others.

In this previous post, I introduced this current series which covers a top-ten list of ideas I had provided to students at Quest 2017, a one-day summit hosted at Southern Connecticut State University by 


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