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To The Future Leaders: Do Not Wait For Life To Come To You

Leadership Lesson: Most of what we are capable of in this world, in our lives and 
careers, can only take place if we are proactive in pursing it, refusing to wait for 
the right circumstances and luck to present themselves.

In this previous post, I introduced this current series which covers a top-ten list of ideas I had provided to students at Quest 2017, a one-day summit hosted at Southern Connecticut State University by Connecticut’s Chapter of Prospanica, in partnership with its community and corporate partners. The annual event is filled with motivational presentations, speakers, and workshops providing…


The Leadership Lesson In A Song: You Can Be Your Own Worst Enemy

Leadership Lesson: Whether from a song or not, in order to learn from others’ experiences, make sure to listen to both the subtle and overt messages and understand what you hear and see in the words of others. 

You know how when someone points something out to you you hadn’t previously recognized or noticed, you tend to see it again? You tend to see it in places you wouldn’t have…


What Do You Do When Your Heroes And Leaders Aren’t What They Seem?

Leadership Lesson: It’s important to learn from the situations in which a “hero,” or someone you considered a true leader, turns out to not be at all what was perceived or expected. 

Recently, I was catching up with a friend I hadn’t spoken to in some time. What led them to reach out was an article they had found online and texted to me which covered a leadership issue…


To 2019! Coach It Out’s Year-End Message: Keep Getting Better!

Leadership Lesson: Here are some considerations to keep in mind as we move forward into the new year, so we can each keep assessing — and evolving along — our own path of leadership and development.

Another year comes to an end. Another year of accomplishments, maybe some so-so’s, and probably some disappointments and letdowns. What we did in the year likely ran the gamut from happiness-inducing achievements to…


What People Teach Us: James Mattis – Considering Everything Our Leaders Are, Not Just What Impacts Us

Leadership Lesson: We should consider everything that makes up our leaders — and which will probably contribute to our own legacy — so we’re not just loyal to our leaders’ loyalty to our own priorities.

So General James Mattis, our country’s latest Secretary of Defense, has had enough.

He has tendered his letter of resignation, effective a few months from now,…


What People Teach Us: Michael Jordan – Never Judge Leadership By Its Cover

Leadership Lesson: Much like the message in the adage Don’t judge a book by its cover, it’s important to never take a scene – or relationship – at face value when it comes to leadership presence and effectiveness, because everyone has their own ideas of what a relationship is supposed to look like.

Recently, during an NBA game between the Charlotte Hornets and the Detroit Pistons, Charlotte’s shooting guard, Malik Monk, was hit with a technical foul…


To The Future Leaders: Be Part Of & Contribute To Your Community

Leadership Lesson: One of the great responsibilities at any level of leadership or leadership development is ensuring that our communities are enriched through the skills and value we ourselves can share with and provide to others.

In this previous post, I introduced this current series which covers a top-ten list of ideas I had provided to students at Quest 2017, a one-day summit hosted at Southern Connecticut State University by 


Cut Ties To Get Away From The Negative Sooner Rather Than Later

Leadership Lesson: For your own benefit, and that of your stakeholders, you need to monitor what’s working for you — and what’s not — so that you’re not utilizing a disproportionate amount of your resources in an area with a low rate of return on your energy, value, and effort.

Do you hold on to the negative for too long? Do you keep such a long-lasting grip on…


The Quest for High School Students: Self-Leadership & Getting To Where You Want To Be

Leadership Lesson: For a student (of any kind), learning the lessons of leadership can begin as soon as someone shares with them both the lessons and the reasons why the lessons are important.

I got a good laugh recently when I showed the picture above to the high school students to whom I was presenting a leadership workshop. Right before I showed them this picture, I asked them to answer some questions by a…


Clichés: What You Lose Out On By Not Considering These Possible Words of Wisdom

Leadership Lesson: Be sure to think past the words of advice, and consider who’s providing them, what the context is, and the lessons being conveyed in them, before you dismiss them as cliché.

Do you know what’s best for you?

Do you know how to utilize the tools around you, both those you have to seek and those already provided to you?

For instance, when someone gives you…


In Working With Others, How Do You Challenge Them To Make Them Better?

Leadership Lesson: Although leadership is about working to eliminate and minimize environmental, developmental, and mission-related obstacles, making someone or something better in the course of that work, it can’t be fully effective without challenging those who are led.

The leadership of yesteryear – coordinating people to carry out cookie-cutter, repetitive tasks that benefit a mission or organization – is long gone.

Even though most workplaces have evolved past that type of work and mentality, as time goes on, there…


To The Future Leaders: Be Sure To Become Aware Of Yourself And Others

Leadership Lesson: You can’t begin establishing a strong foundation of effectiveness or success, without a deep understanding of who you are and of those around you in your various environments.

In this previous post, I introduced this current series which covers a top-ten list of ideas I had provided to students at Quest 2017, a one-day summit hosted at Southern Connecticut State University by Connecticut’s Chapter of Prospanica, in partnership with its community and corporate…


What Would Someone Write About You In A Letter of Reference?

Leadership Lesson: To understand your best attributes, as well as areas which need improvement, it’s advantageous to consider how a letter of reference for you would read.

It’s always great to help someone else out, making sure they’re empowered to reach what they’re working for. Not enough opportunities exist in which each of us can thoroughly highlight someone else’s strengths to others, spelling out exactly how others would benefit from that person’s skills….


From The Twitterverse: Elon Musk, Your Most Difficult Problems, and How You Solved Them

Leadership Lesson: What someone considers a problem — and how they address it and all the factors surrounding it — demonstrates a lot about how they pay attention to what is around them, their self-awareness, and how they learn from their experiences.

What’s your problem?

Ok, most of us have several. Let’s not go through the list of today’s. But name one from your past. A tough one. What was it? How…


Not Being Where You Think You Should Be In Your Career Can Be A Learning Experience

Leadership Lesson: When feeling as if you’ve wasted too much time before finally landing your desired job, there’s power in reassessment — looking back at all your experiences and realizing they’ve all served a purpose.

I was speaking to someone recently who had finally landed the job they wanted. After years of working other less-satisfying jobs here and there, while applying and interviewing for other, more-desired jobs, they were able to finally…


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