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Share It!: The Power Of Paying It Forward With Your Story

Leadership Lesson: Sharing our personal story with others — not just our technical expertise — can provide some guidance, insight, and hope for those who feel they still have most of their own path left to go, encouraging them to keep their eyes open to the lessons and possibilities in both work and life.

We don’t know what the hell we’re doing. Well, most of us anyway.

Recently, I got to sit on a discussion panel at my alma mater the University of Hartford. I shared the stage as, I guess, the old man with other….fresher-faced (?) UHart alumni – Alexandra, Laura,…


If We Need To Evolve Beyond Today, Don’t “Teach A Man To Fish.”

Leadership Lesson: In order to set someone up for their best habits in development, growth, and their own definition of success, it’s important to consider the true adaptability skills we provide alongside the traditional tools we impart on those we lead, teach, or influence. 

“Give a man a fish
and you feed him for a day.
Teach a man to fish
and you feed him for a life time.”  

Yeah, I don’t think so. 

Unfortunately, this Chinese proverb is incomplete. It leaves so much — too much — to the imagination. Although expecting imagination to fill in the gaps can be either a good thing or a bad thing depending on the student’s own curiosity, the proverb should have taken its message one step further.


What Do You Do When Your Heroes And Leaders Aren’t What They Seem?

Leadership Lesson: It’s important to learn from the situations in which a “hero,” or someone you considered a true leader, turns out to not be at all what was perceived or expected. 

Recently, I was catching up with a friend I hadn’t spoken to in some time. What led them to reach out was an article they had found online and texted to me which covered a leadership issue we both felt very strongly about. 

In any case, we got to “talking” (aka – texting) about the issue, and once we were done venting about the topic of the article, we briefly talked about everything else going on in our lives. We caught each other up on our jobs, our families, and the future goals…


Here Are 5 Books For Your Journey To Overcoming Fear Of Failure

Leadership Lesson: Don’t overlook the power of books to fill in the gaps in lessons you may not see or have access to in your work or personal life.

Last week, I presented a workshop for B.I.G. – Believe. Inspire. Growa women’s empowerment network providing women with the inspiration, community, and tools to help them become the best versions of themselves.  

I presented to the audience on how to begin overcoming their fear of failure.

This is such a relevant topic, because the more I work with individuals and groups, both through presentations and coaching, the more I realize how much each of us grapples with our own unique fear of failure.

Overall, it’s no secret that…


Leadership Can Be Lonely: How Do You Really Step Outside Of Yourself To Connect?

Leadership Lesson: Loneliness is trending toward becoming an epidemic, but a similar, powerful emptiness — an unfulfilled and psychological need – can also exist in leadership.

Loneliness can rob us of our best lives, in which we could get to know others on a deeper level and utilize and develop our greatest abilities. At the same time, it robs others of the opportunity to know us and realize, and benefit from, what we could provide.

These two articles outline the growing severity and proliferation of loneliness in society:

Seven Simple Ways To Cope With Loneliness

Loneliness Is A Health Issue, And Needs Targeted Solutions

Much in the same way loneliness is detrimental in people’s personal lives,…


What They Teach Us: Simon Sinek’s Attempt At Weighing Leadership vs. Management

Leadership Lesson: Leadership and Management are different, yet equally vital and necessary. Understand them both. Respect them both.

Recently, while on LinkedIn, scrolling through the various groups and people in my feed of connections and groups I follow, I came across a post from the Start With Why – Simon Sinek LinkedIn page. It was a video clip in which Simon Sinek, the popular motivational speaker, marketing consultant, and worldwide lecturer, broke down the difference between leadership and management — or at least his own take on the distinction between the two disciplines.

Sinek, who is a bestselling author of various books on leadership, having sold millions of copies of each, has a strong following of “Sinek’s” and is always — ALWAYS — asking…


What Do You Mean When You Say “It’s Too Much Work” To Reach What You Want?

Leadership Lesson: We need to be honest with ourselves when it comes to truly understanding what goes into achieving the things we desire.

We’re each a work-in-progress. That’s been mentioned here before, and it’s an honest assessment we should begin with as we develop ourselves forward. All of us are evolving toward our own goals and definitions of success.

Only some of us will work toward or achieve those goals and successes, while others watch from the sidelines, not knowing they can get into the game whenever they choose to.

Those who do go on to achieve their goals and successes have a mix of great support, perfect timing, and maybe even a little bit of luck. But much of the time, those who achieve…


How Do You Cover The Journalistic Side Of Leadership?

Mission, Vision, Strategy. These are all drivers of action which get stakeholders inspired about what needs to be set into play to achieve the goals of an organization. These pieces of the foundation help drive the day-to-day operations toward goal fulfillment and should become engrained in the group’s story.

The effectiveness of a group or organization can sputter if the core of its communication, both internally and externally, falls apart or is unclear. Without a solid understanding of what a group does or is trying to accomplish, it becomes harder for stakeholders and supporters to get behind a mission, vision, and strategy.

That communication needs to be there. It needs to be conveyed. It needs to be articulated.

The story needs to be told.


How Does The Role You Play In Your Leader’s Audience Impact Your Effectiveness?

When it comes down to it, leadership isn’t about title but instead about making an impression, being invested, and wielding influence. Even the smallest of steps and actions of impression, investment, and influence can both make a difference and set the example for others.

One would be amazed how easy it is to influence people in a positive manner through example, demonstrating to others what is possible. One can shape the environment, even if just taking one small step at a time.

Much in the same way we can influence others through our examples, causing them to adjust their own actions and approach, the example can also be set with how leadership can be shaped.

Consider the current catch phrases one might hear nowadays — “managing…


Questioning Your Motivation: The Who? What? Where? When? Why?

Leadership Lesson: A great way to motivate yourself forward is to regularly take a step back and outline the answers to understand what makes up your foundation.

Leadership can be effective when we understand our environment and everything in it. We see how things—people, processes, and all other stakeholders—intersect, and we can move accordingly to make sure everything is coming together as smoothly and as efficiently as possible.

But the effectiveness of leadership doesn’t start with the actions taken to influence all those moving pieces in the environment. The actions are what are seen and, hopefully, credited with instilling the environment with the right guidance to reach success. But, in leadership they are the ends, not the means.

Those leadership actions we carry out are…


Leaders & Followers – How Do You Treat The Workplace Script?

Leadership Lesson: It’s vital to understand the culture and environment you’re coming into but even more important to maintain your objective, critical lens through which to objectively analyze it.

In coming into any endeavor or environment, it goes without saying that the more information one has, the quicker he or she can get up to speed so they feel comfortable making their own autonomous contributions.

To work toward common success, it’s important to provide methods and a foundation of knowledge to help those individuals acclimate to the environment as smoothly as possible. The more they know as they start off, the better they can do as they progress.

Everyone needs to be provided with the right tools to get started. They need to come into a baseline…


There’s A Difference Between “Quitting” And Doing What’s Best For You

Leadership Lesson: You need to understand that there’s a difference between quitting and situations where you’re doing what’s right for you, learning from what you’ve experienced to move forward.

Be honest: Are you a quitter?

Do you give up on things? Do you walk away from things? Do you just say to yourself “This isn’t for me” or “I can’t do this”?

Some people would say that to separate yourself from an action, initiative or plan you had previously committed to would be quitting.  You wanted to do something and, at some point, you decided it wasn’t for you and so you just backed out.

You started and you changed your mind. So, again, according to some, you’ve quit.

But, much in the same way it’s…


How Strong is Your Voice for Your Value? What Will You Show Others?

Leadership Lesson: Rather than assume others will see your value, no matter how good you think you’re doing, make sure you’re demonstrating it to others and that it’s something you always seek to constantly assess and improve.

How often do you get opportunities to demonstrate who you are and what you’re capable of?

Opportunities, in and of themselves, can be tricky as life is about taking the opportunities which you’re given at some points in time while making opportunities for yourself at others.

Too many people wait for opportunities to be presented instead of working around life and trying to lay down the tracks for creating their own.

So, in your personal, work, and professional life, how do you create opportunities…


Free Leadership Learning Tool: Learn By Comparing Your Bosses

Leadership Lesson: Use your own life and work history as a study in leadership development, by analyzing all your leaders to date, taking into account what made them either effective or ineffective.

Leadership development is not only learned from theories in books, or reading about leaders or those we admire from afar. It is also learned from what and who is around us. It’s not about waiting until we’re in a leadership position to make a difference. There are plenty of things to learn and marks to make before anyone officially designates or considers us a leader.

So how do you learn from your environment? How do you learn from those around you?

Who do you look to to learn about the best (or worst)…


In Your Life And Work, What Do You Allow People To Take From You?

Leadership Lesson: Make sure you don’t allow others to take anything away from you. Period.

Are you allowing others to dictate the course of your leadership and professional development? The development of those abilities and skills may be more out of your control than you know or would prefer.

But that’s only if you let it be that way.

These types of developments are not limited to the proactive steps you’re taking to gain from and influence your immediate environment. Nor are they confined to how you react to factors in your environment.

Beyond what you are proactive and reactive about, they are as much about what you allow to happen, and that can dictate the direction in which your development and growth are heading.

Proacting,…


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