How Do You Refocus, Recharge, And Get Going When You’re Stuck?

Leadership Lesson: Step back and recognize when you’re feeling stuck and the steps you need to take to refocus your attention, revise your plan, and push forward.

How do you recharge when you feel like you’re stuck and paralyzed while working toward your goals?

There will be times in the course of our work and lives when we might end up feeling like we’ve lost our energy, our motivation, or, in some cases, even our purpose.

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There may be various reasons as to why this happens: We’ve lost sight of what got us going in the first place. We’ve lost our passion for what it is we used to love to do. We feel like we’re not making any progress. We may feel like the obstacles are stacked against us.

So many different feelings can trip us up and have us feeling like we’re stuck in quicksand.

So then what?

Let’s look at those feelings listed above:

  • We’ve lost sight of what got us going in the first place
  • We’ve lost our passion for what it is we used to love to do
  • We feel like we’re not making any progress
  • We may feel like the obstacles are stacked against us

These items tend to be the most common reasons for why people may feel stuck. There may be other reasons and extenuating circumstances or, in some cases, even mental health reasons which hold people back. While the latter may require more specialized attention than can – and should — be provided here, and the former may be unique to individual cases, the list above, in general, tends to underlie most situations.

So, with regard to that list above, how do we deal with each?

As usual, break them down:

We’ve lost sight of what got us going in the first place

Whatever you’re stalled in, or whatever you need to get back to doing – your business, your work, your partnership, your education, etc.– why did you start doing it in the first place?

Presently, you may just be in reactive mode, having put your energy and focus on cruise control for so long. But, when you do that for too long and the fuel runs out, it has an adverse effect. You lose the compass that keeps you moving in the right direction.

So you need to think about what it was that pumped you up in the first place.

It may be that you forgot why you are doing what you are doing, either because you haven’t proactively thought about it in a while or your passion for that original driver has changed.

If your priorities have changed, it’s time to either find a new priority that ties into that work, something that can push you forward. If that’s not possible, and there are no other options which drive you, it may be time to move on to the next endeavor.

So you’re not necessarily stuck in a work or life trench. You may just be ready for something else.

We’ve lost our passion for what it is we used to love to do

Another piece of passion is not just what gets us going – that launching pad and bigger goal – but also what you feel day-in and day-out.

Sometimes, the goal at the beginning is enough to keep you driven. But it can also help to recognize and appreciate the smaller victories and passion as you go. These are daily prompters to keep going.

For some, it’s not enough to wait to see a bigger result; they need to feel ongoing bits of satisfaction and see the ongoing ignition of their passion.

If this is the case, what would it take for you to feel that passion on a daily basis. For instance, what would you get from sharing your passion on a daily basis, updating partners and supporters as you go?

So, you’re not necessarily stuck in a work or life trench. You may just need to communicate the good work you’re doing. Getting an outsider’s perspective might help you re-center.

We feel like we’re not making any progress

Maybe it just feels like we’re not making any headway. It’s an important need to feel like you’re moving forward, especially if you have a goal in mind, and you’re working diligently toward achieving it.

Those small wins can keep you motivated, reassured, and confident, to feel like you’re making the difference you want to make. And, again, keep in mind that the definition of success, even on a daily basis, is not the same for each of us. Some people may need to see some level of results each day, while others can wait longer for that reassurance.

Keeping this in mind, what will it take for you to make that progress? Do you need additional help? Do you need to reach out for assistance? Are you too proud to demonstrate that you’re in need?

So, you’re not necessarily stuck in a work or life trench. You may just not be using the resources around you, and that includes the people that can guide, support, and stand by you. They can also point out what you don’t see about yourself – the good, the bad, and the ugly.

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We may feel like the obstacles are stacked against us

There are always reasons why someone has hit their own feeling of a rut. It’s all based on what someone sees, either in perception or in actuality.

While the other points above are perception, this one is more about the actual way things are playing out. It’s about the actual, visible factors in the environment that challenge us.

It can be how things play out in the environment, through processes, policies, people, projects, and plans—and/or how they fall through.

These are things that others can also see and are, therefore and most often, not a misinterpretation on someone’s part. It’s not that the mind is translating incorrectly. What someone needs to happen in the environment is not happening.

If this is the case, what is your planning approach? How do you assess and reassess your plan and the environment at the same time? What is your contingency planning habit? Do you work with others to make sure what you are working on individually or as part of a group has the best chance to be successful?

So, you’re not necessarily stuck in a work or life trench. You just need to keep your eyes open to both risks and opportunities.


The most important part out of all this is to reach out to people you trust. Most of the time, others can see us — and other factors — more objectively than we can.

Things can be changed, adjusted, or reconsidered (if that’s what has to happen) to come to a result that works for you, even if it’s not what you initially expected or desired.

Goal and action planning of any sort, in any industry, in any profession, rarely plays out the way it’s outlined on day one.

Things will change from day to day. But so, too, do you. Staying stagnant while everything around you changes can cripple you.

Keep your eyes open, relationships strong, communication clear, and grit going.



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