Through Your Leadership, Overall, How Do You Pass Leadership Lessons Onto Your Kids?
Leadership Lesson: Sharing lessons ensures the continuity of the lessons, sharpens our own understanding, and allows us to improve the lessons through our own experiences.
Among all the other lessons we try to pass on to our kids, what are the leadership lessons we can pass on to our children to put them on the right path to their own success and greatness?
Leadership is not only limited to the workplace. Your ability and aptitude for leadership – to make an impact on and influence your environment, for better or worse, whether in an official position or not – follows you wherever you go.
It exists not only in formal policy and directives, but informal and passive actions and steps.
Leadership is not only about considering what you believe drives your actions – your intentions – but it’s also about what other people see, perceive, and take from what you do.
Aside from our coworkers, colleagues, and other adults, children can pick up on that too.
No two kids are the same but, generally, they listen, take on, and absorb more than you may believe. They may act like they are not listening, but they are taking it all in.
— CiO Leadership Coach (@CoachItOut) May 29, 2017
They’re impressionable overall, and they watch their environment, picking up attitudes, attributes, and quirks we may not see in ourselves or others.
So what, through a proactive, measured, and self-aware fashion, can we impress upon them through our everyday actions?
In order to plant the seeds in your children for things they should keep in mind as they develop and build their own personality and leadership, consider the items below.
We all know how young children can parrot words they hear throughout their day.
How do you choose your words wisely to match the situation at hand?
So much is lost in adulthood through poor communication when we don’t pick the right words to match the urgency and importance of a moment. We might overdo it in some situations and not do enough in others. Finding the right words to match the moment can help children understand how to monitor and capture their thoughts, emotions, and what they want to convey.
Seeing how you express yourself will help them pick up the nuances of words and expression.
We know how children can shift between what is important to them from one day or year to the next.
How do you begin conveying to them what is important and what is of priority?
So much is lost in adulthood when we forget what it is we find important, when we need to slow down and consider what is important to us, and why we do things. If a child can learn to organize their values and understand why they’re doing something, it sets them on the right path to monitor their values as they proceed into their own teenage years and adulthood.
Seeing you being able to outline and stand by your values will guide them as they’ll know what they stand for and it will be less likely that they’ll lose their way in their journey.
There is nothing like watching a child’s curiosity when they encounter a new toy, playscape, person, TV show, etc.
How can we help them maintain that sense of wonder, where they want to understand as much as they can about their environments?
So much is lost in adulthood when we lose that sense of curiosity about the world around us. We tend to accept what is in our lives instead of continuing to learn and dissect how things work around us and seeking out new adventures. We tend to stick to the familiar and dismiss what might take us outside of our comfort zone.
It’ll pay dividends when they see curiosity in your eyes and demeanor as you come across something new.
We know children tend not to be as strategic and cognizant of the repercussions and consequences of their actions as we’d like.
How can we help them understand how to think about a situation or action before it occurs so they can consider what might happen?
Many, but not all, of the problems we might have encountered in our lives might have come from poor preparation, waning due diligence, and empty consideration for what might come out of our actions. We might have done something without considering the outcome for others.
It’s important for children to see that you consider the outcome for others impacted by your actions, whether good or bad, and that you can adjust your actions and steps accordingly.
Again, our kids’ attention spans are only developed so much depending on where you catch them in age, so they’re not always going to think about coming back to something they had focused on previously.
How can we get them to see they have a stake in following up on something they had a part in previously?
A good number of issues we might encounter as adults stem from our inability to really follow up with situations in which, or people with whom, we played a role. It’s important that we maintain the ability and skill to make sure that we come back and determine whether or not the results we wanted are still playing out, and whether they can be improved.
If your children see you following up on an action or a promise, they understand that it’s not “out of sight, out of mind.” They understand that monitoring results of what they might be involved in is important.
This is a powerful item because it doesn’t play into what a child does proactively, but how they react to the world around them.
How can we model a method of reacting accordingly in a situation or to a result which is not favorable?
So much of what makes us impactful and influential is our reaction and how we answer and perform in response to factors in our environment. Most importantly, how do we react to that with which we don’t agree, or which deals us an adverse or negative result? We lose so much by getting emotional instead of remaining clear-headed, logical, and rational.
How you react to undesired results can set your child up for either progression or regression? How is it you can set the tone for powerful Emotional Intelligence?
Yes, these aren’t formal and exact leadership lessons for leading a group, but they are steps to take to further develop the example one sets.
Passive examples are just as powerful as targeted actions.
And although the breakdown here is committed to and focused on the impact on children, the influence can carry to anyone who might work with us or watch us in action. People will keep in mind and process what they see in someone.
None of this is scientific, but works instead in the generalities of the day-to-day. It’s food for thought. Erring on the side of caution.
These items don’t provide the technical skill but provide a foundation for growth, fortitude, and integrity.