For A Well-Rounded Approach To Your Development, Be Sure To Take Advantage Of Your Friends
You should not take your friends for granted, but you should definitely take advantage of them.
This does not mean taking advantage of them in the traditional sense, where they are used to their detriment for your gain, but instead to take advantage of the value that they provide.
It means looking to your friends and the example that they set. Much in the way it is important to analyze one’s surroundings and react accordingly, one should make sure that they are regularly learning from all facets and surroundings, including friends.
“…one has to debrief and self-reflect on his or her own strengths and weaknesses…”
The same way someone has to debrief and self-reflect on his or her own strengths and weaknesses to determine what is beneficial and what works for the success of their mission, whether workplace or professional, so too should they look to their friends to see what works and does not work in their friends’ demeanor, approach, attitude, and actions.
In general, this is an exercise in understanding, as objectively as possible, what works and what doesn’t in both others and ourselves. We can cull lessons from being observant of both those closest to us and acquaintances with which we might only interact intermittently.
Moreover, this can be an enlightening process by learning from friends and picking their brains if need be.For instance, is your friend or coworker organized? A good networker? Great at customer service? Are they able to outline their thought process to others in a logical fashion? These are great attributes to grow and improve upon. Ask your friends what it is that drives those attributes and for tips on how you can work toward carrying out those behaviors. Attributes such as these are the drivers for success. They serve everyone in the environment and start a rippled wave of positive effect across the culture.
“…We can’t let those lessons go to waste. They’re free lessons, there for the taking…”
How about the opposite? Is your friend or coworker dishonest? Are they lazy? Are they disorganized and unfocused? Are they not a team player? These are poor behaviors that are both detrimental and non-productive. Unfortunately, we might see these attitudes in the everyday; they put all of us in those environments at a disadvantage for myriad and somewhat obvious reasons.
Consider what it is you think are the strengths and perceived weaknesses as others interact in their environment. How does this compare to your own behavior in those types of instances? Would your attitude and actions have been better or worse than those you’ve witnessed? Have you considered how you could improve your actions whether they were up to par or not?
There’s always room for improvement.
We can’t let those lessons go to waste. They’re free lessons, there for the taking.
So…What About You?
- What have you learned by watching others around you, for better or worse?
- How did you reconcile those actions to your own?
- As a result, what actions did you take to either self-correct or build upon your own attributes?