It’s Time To Find Your Confidence When It Comes To Interviewing
Confidence can make or break you.
Your level of confidence may vary, increasing or decreasing from situation-to-situation. This variation is based on past experiences, and our understanding and level of certainty from one situation to the next.
Like with most things, confidence in the everyday is a matter of perception-it conveys what we think we see and feel. More specifically, confidence is the face demonstrating that which we understand and of which we are certain.
If we are, at least, seemingly certain of all the factors in one situation, the next time we’ll be more certain (or confident). If we’re not as certain or feel uneasy in one instance, the next time we’ll feel just as uncertain (or less confident).
“…We tend to get tripped up on the unknown without focusing on what we do know and having that make up for the uncertain…”
Confidence can come more naturally to some who seemingly only need show up and everything goes off without a hitch whereas for the rest of society it might take some time, patience, and practice.
It is no different in interviewing for a position or responsibility of any kind. But like with other instances where confidence is needed, and without over-analyzing, one should break down the impending situations, where possible, to understand what they are certain of and that in the situation of which they are uncertain.
We tend to get tripped up on the unknown without focusing on what we do know and having that make up for the uncertain aspects or factors.
As there are various levels of confidence depending on what is known or unknown, in interviewing there are three types of confidences present. They are the Confidence In The Job, In Front Of Others, and In Oneself.
- …In The Job …Do you have the experience? It is likely you do or someone believes you do because you got called in for the interview. Common interviewing tips prescribe how one should research the company, industry, and job requirements. So the confidence here is more about preparation than on-the-spot certainty.
- …In Front Of Others …How confident are you with being questioned by, or presenting in front of another person or persons? This is the trickiest one because one does not know what to expect. We are likely meeting new people so we don’t have the established level of comfort or relationship. This can be nerve-racking and that’s understandable. It’s about composure. But this too can be practiced by stepping out of our comfort zone with people we might not know when outside of the interview process.
- …In Yourself…What do you know about yourself? This is both the one that counts most and the easiest to achieve. Self-awareness is important. Know who you are, what you’ve done, what you can do, what you’re willing to do, what you want to do, that you’ll do what it takes, etc. This is you. This is what the interviewer wants to see and this is the most natural of the confidences.
Along with other tips for interviewing, if you know yourself enough to know what you’ll deliver and how you’ll bring value, that’s where you get your confidence.
“…Confidence is not the need to be more than you are; it’s only certainty in knowing what your value is…”
With regard to the Confidence In Front Of Others (expression/composure), again, practicing outside of your comfort zone in situations with less pressure allows you to refine how you present yourself and how much you can improvise on-the-spot. Through practice, one can get used to speaking with strangers and conveying accurately what they want to convey.
But remember, it’s the certainty (read: “confidence”) in what you can do that you have to convey and which can outshine the uncertainty of being completely composed in front of someone.
Confidence In Yourself: that’s not practiced; it’s based in those things you know, or should know, about yourself. That confidence that rises from self-awareness is also backed by your technical and work experience. It’s not faked.
As long as you work to know yourself and what you’re capable of, let that shine and the rest has a better chance of falling into place.
Confidence is not the need to be more than you are; it’s only certainty in knowing what your value is.
You know what you’re capable of.
So…What About You?
- How have you developed your confidence?
- How have you helped others develop theirs where they might not realize their own value?
- How do you address your confidence in different situations where your certainty might vary?